If you could protect your kids from pain every single time, wouldn't you? In the story I tell myself about what it meant to be "the best mom" I could be, I imagined my children would have no sadness because I would always be able to spring into action and save them. We are tempted to insulate our kids from disappointment, frustration, failure, loss, because we carry their anguish, however substantial. The problem with this insulation is that we cannot regulate the challenge